I really don’t want to say it but higher powers have somehow worked their devious magic and Sean and I are no longer together. Four and a half years of a relationship has now turned to “When are you coming to get your stuff, I can’t look at it anymore”. Needless to say I’ll be doing some major packing over the course of the next couple of days, and none of it will be mine. I’m worried about the financial aspect of everything because I’d basically given him AGn Solutions but everything is still being forwarded to my paypal account. I don’t know if I should just give up the account or what. My issue with that is that I fully intend to get back into working online, be it through blogging or designing – whichever I can figure out how to accomplish now that I no longer have my Mac or any programs, fonts, ANYTHING. I’m starting from scratch completely across the board and for someone who’s been out of the loop for so long – this is just going to be one major obstacle after another. On top of that we have a joint bank account, the cell phones are in my name. There’s just a lot more shit involved and Sean has decided he’s “done” so now I’m sitting here trying to figure out how to make that as smooth of a transition as possible, but I highly doubt it’s going to be. There’s no possible way to walk away from every aspect of your life and start fresh. Especially when you’re in the same place and while he’s not, but all of his stuff is still here.
I don’t know where I’m going from here. I’ve realized over the course of the past few days that there are a lot of aspects of my life that were never dealt with due to my jumping into things so quickly. I realize now that the reason I have gone drastically down hill over the course of the past few months was due to the fact that my brain was telling me to ‘hold up, wait a minute, deal with your shit right now’. I’m not over the major mistake made when I was a teenager, I’m not over Joe or Lucy for that matter either. I never actually went through a grieving period for anything, I just kept jumping from one thing to the next to keep my mind off of things. Now is the chance for me to 100% focus on everything without having any outside influence. The next couple of weeks are going to be an extremely wild ride for me physically and emotionally. And to top it all off, I have to deal with the fact that for the first time in 10 years, I’m alone for Christmas.
Being alone isn’t always a bad thing. Take this time to get back in touch with yourself. Sounds like it has been a while since you had quality time to focus on you. It could all be a blessing in disguise. I wish you well!
This is the only thing that I can say: Life is not a always a fairytale with a “happily ever after” ending. People come and go as things in things in this world faded with no value. Maybe, it’s time that you give something for yourself. Try to move on and let go.